Pretty Lynne Writes

The other day, I learned that a VA was having a milestone birthday that’s way in my past, and I messaged a smutty colleague: “Tell me I’m not too old to be doing this.” 

My bio says that I am GenX, and that identifies me as older than most of the female VAs I’m aware of. I know a few in their 40s, many in their late 30s, but I’ll tell you a little secret. 

There are 50+ candles on my birthday cake. (Shock! Horror!)

I question my participation in the smut community sometimes, not because I’ve experienced ageism myself (although I’ve heard other female creators have), but because I wonder if it’s “appropriate,” whatever that means. 

I always land on two things. 

1. I am an older woman who is still a sexual person and I enjoy writing about and recording audios about sex. 
2. People need to see older women being sexual.

I post thirst trap photos regularly on social media and, although they maybe don’t get as many likes as those of younger creators, I have my fans. I don’t edit out the freckles on my chest or the lines on my neck. These things are part of aging (but also, wear sunscreen, my darlings). I want people to see that bodies like mine can be attractive. 

(In case you think I’m posting these photos purely for philosophical reasons, I’ll disabuse you of that notion. I get a kick out of people appreciating my assets. A man I dated briefly told me how sexy I was. “I bet you don’t hear that a lot,” he said, and I rolled my eyes.)

Many women experience a change in their desire at midlife. Some find that they have a hard time seeing themselves as sexual after having devoted their 30s and 40s to raising children, or developing their career. Some see a massive increase in sexual desire as they start hormone replacement therapy or go through perimenopause. Some watch sexual desire disappear in the rearview mirror after the end of an established relationship, or decide not to pursue sexual relationships any longer. I think it’s important to talk about these changes. Women need to know they are not alone. 

I write about things that are interesting to me and people my age. My male characters normally feature wrinkles and grey hair. My female characters are women with curvy, older bodies. In one of my stories, the male character traces an estrogen patch on his lover’s hip. My plot lines allude to characters with a variety of life experiences – divorce, children, loss, long careers, extensive travel. 

It’s so important to me that people see their lives reflected in what I do. And I want to see my own life experiences reflected in my porn, so I write what I want to hear and read. I think it lands; most of the feedback I receive through Literotica is from older readers and listeners. They often appreciate my “mature voice” and outlook. 

Sex can bring joy, connection, and satisfaction to life. I want to portray people who have those things long after they are considered young. 

And sex is important to me. I want to continue to explore my own sexuality – both personally and as a creator  –  for many more years. Possibly long past when it’s “appropriate.” 

I think I’ll decide when that is for myself.