personal

  • Say My Name

    I rarely get called [real name]. I don’t know why, but it has always been the case.  Even my parents don’t call me by my name. My mother has been calling me “chicken,” for as long as I can remember. Other people close to me call me a variety of nicknames. It may be because

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  • Should

    If there is a word I would take out of our collective vocabulary, it would be should.  Should is a wish-fulfillment fantasy. He should have treated me better. (Absolutely, and yet he didn’t.)  We shouldn’t have to do this. (Nope, and yet we do.) I shouldn’t have to tell you I don’t like that. (Maybe,

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  • Thanks

    Remember when gratitude journals were all the rage? If you just think of 3 things you’re grateful for every day, you’ll notice the change in your life. I think the idea was to train yourself to see the positives (I wrote about this in Glimmers).  I tried this practice for a while, but no amount

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  • Let Everything Happen

    It’s a major tenet of Buddhism, as I understand it, that suffering is caused by resistance. Accept what is happening to and around you, and move in strength from there.  So often your brain tells you “No, it can’t be true that X is happening,” when in fact, X is very much happening. X is

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