Musing

  • Fuck Valentine’s Day

    Full disclosure: this is the second time in my life I’ve written a piece with this title.  The first was when I was 20 and writing for the student newspaper at my university. I was single and bitter about it, but having been a romantic since my early days, I wanted to mark the occasion.…

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  • New Year, Old Me

    The temptation to remake myself every new year is strong. I love the idea of fresh starts. New notebooks, a fresh stack of paper, a new pen, a clean slate. Leave who you are in the old year and begin again. Be whoever you wish you could be. Fix whatever is wrong with you.  But…

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  • Death, Like a Door

    CW: death My dad died today.  If it seems weird to you that I’d be writing a blog post, well, it is, a little. But writing has always been the way I process things, so I’m doing that now.  My dad lived a long life and the last few years were not great for him.…

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  • Tend Your Garden

    There are days when my garden is sunny and green. The flowers in the corner are bright pink; I planted them there the first time I had something published and people called me a writer. Some sunflowers in the side yard by the fence are a compliment someone paid me about my sunny personality. The…

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  • Do It Scared

    I’ve been sitting in the dark for the last half an hour or so, frozen. I have a bunch of things to do, some of which are work and some of which are fun, but I can’t move.  Tomorrow I am going to do a very big thing. It doesn’t really matter what it is.…

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  • Say My Name

    I rarely get called [real name]. I don’t know why, but it has always been the case.  Even my parents don’t call me by my name. My mother has been calling me “chicken,” for as long as I can remember. Other people close to me call me a variety of nicknames. It may be because…

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  • Should

    If there is a word I would take out of our collective vocabulary, it would be should.  Should is a wish-fulfillment fantasy. He should have treated me better. (Absolutely, and yet he didn’t.)  We shouldn’t have to do this. (Nope, and yet we do.) I shouldn’t have to tell you I don’t like that. (Maybe,…

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  • Blocked

    I had a confusing thing happen recently and I wanted to write about it.  An individual responded to a story of mine on Instagram with a note that they clicked on the Reddit link in my profile and were “not sorry. Amazing work.”  We had a very pleasant and superficial exchange about my writing, and…

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  • Older

    “You’re so pretty,” my friend said to me. It was one of those nights you have with friends where everyone drinks a lot and the conversation turns to how much you all love each other.  “You should have seen her 10 years ago,” another friend said. I laughed at him, but I am a slow…

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  • Armour

    CW: diet culture talk  I think of it like armour. It’s heavy, and cumbersome, but I wear it to protect me. When I can finally take it off, I’m tired.  I recently spent time with an old friend. I love her. She’s been so wonderful to me during a hard time. She encourages me. She…

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